life is beautiful

I naturally woke up on a beautiful Saturday morning. I made myself salad and coffee, and enjoyed my breakfast while watching TV. I then cleaned up my house with lounge music playing on Lush 99.5FM in the afternoon. After a refreshing shower, I came online and chat with Cely.

Suddenly, a wonderful feeling came over me, I felt joy, satisfaction, and quietude. I shared this feeling with Cely, and she admired me for I am enjoying my single-man lifestyle. In fact, she has few friends who are single and living alone happily.

I am not living alone, I have 2 housemates but we don’t really get to meet each other very often. Jim stays overnight in girlfriend’s house almost every other day, and I don’t expect to see him home on weekend. Meng Siang is running a bridal shop, he works 7 days a week from 11am till late night. It’s considered early for me to see him home before 10pm.

In other words, I am home alone most of the time, but I am totally fine with it. I like staying at home than going out on weekends unless there are special occasions. Some friends of mine said that I’m a lonely person who is having a boring life. That’s their perception towards me. What they don’t understand is that I am single, but I’m not a lonely person. Staying home alone does not mean my life is boring.

“What do you do on weekends if you don’t go out?”, friends asked me. Well, there are many things I can do. I watch TV programme, do housekeeping, read books, listen to music, come online, and update blog. Oh yeah, I’m taking Erhu class recently.

What makes you think that life is wonderful only if you go out every weekend? There are friends who do not agree with me that staying home can be enjoyable, some of them even whine to me that they have empty feeling when they are alone. In my opinion, this is because they don’t know what to do when they are alone, they don’t have activities that they can do without company. Even if they go out with friends, the lonely feeling come back to them when the party is over.

Reading is a very good past-time activity to me, I recommend friends good books to read but it’s just too bad that most of the people I know don’t like reading. Even if they do, magazine would be their only reading resource. Reading is boring? OK, fine. How about take up some classes that you are interested in? Yoga class, dancing class, music class, drawing class, cooking class…… you get to meet new friends while learning new stuff, doesn’t it sound good? If you are mercy and kind enough, be a social service volunteer then.

There are so many things we can do to fill up the so-called “empty feeling” and “loneliness”, so stop whining about you feeling lonely and bored every now and then, and start learning how to enjoy your single life.